So your marriage just ended. Now what? Aside from losing your partner in crime, your best friend, you now have to establish a new mode of living. From organizing your home, possibly moving, and trying to hide the memories of what once was, the divorce process is a roller coaster of emotions.
Some days are harder than others. Songs that come on the radio, shows that you use to watch together, friends that you use to hang out with, are now behind you.
How can you go from intertwining your life with someone to feeling so alone and alienated? For your friends and family that have never been through this process, they will never understand what you’re going through. No matter how hard they try, no one gets it unless you’ve been through it. It’s just one of those things in life that you have to experience in order to fully get it.
Moving on from your marriage is more than just moving on from your marriage. It’s a little...
3 Ways To Release Resistance Around A Subject
We all have something we bump up against that causes us to feel tension and constriction. Whether it’s in our careers, relationships or just every day things in life. This past week I noticed how many people around me were bumping up against things in their life and felt stuck in their situation.
When my father’s alcoholism began to take form in my early teenage years, there were many times I felt consumed by it. Wondering if things would get any better and how it would happen. I spent 14 years feeling stuck and unhappy. I wouldn’t recommend you do the same. Helping people shift their way of thinking has become my passion and mission. I know how powerful it can be and once you make it part of your lifestyle.
As a society in general we always tend to move towards what isn’t working in our lives. We focus on what makes us feel bad. The boss that gets on our nerves, the husband or wife...
As I look back on my past week, I realized that it was a week full of lessons thrown my way. I was reminded once again to stand my ground, feel more love, less anger, and have unshakable faith in my belief system and vision. What a week, right?!
I am a big believer in creating your own path. Aligning our thoughts and our feelings to create the future we want. Sometimes though, life still hands you experiences that need your attention in order to get to the next step. This week proved that I still had some work to do in some areas of my life.
When you think of someone being bullied do you think of middle school, high school or even elementary school kids? That’s what immediately pops into my mind when I hear the term bully. Merriam-Webster’s definition of a “bully” says “to treat someone in a cruel, insulting, threatening or aggressive fashion; to cause someone to do something by means of force or coercion”. Now what...
We all have moments where fear can stop us right in our tracks. We start looking at all the things going wrong and become scared of what’s to come. Sometimes life hands us situations that seem like a challenge and obstacle and that’s when most of us give up on the thing we want. We allow that fear to consume us and feed into it. We can’t see the gift in the challenge, that opportunity for growth and discovery.
So how do we turn fear into something positive, into something that can benefit us and allow us to receive what we truly want? We first have become AWARE of what is making us scared. Becoming aware of why we are afraid, can help us get clear on what we do want. When we know what we DON’T want, that helps us understand what we DO want. Anytime you experience a situation where you can easily list out all the things you don’t like about it, stop for a second and become conscious of the moment you can flip your story.
How to Find Your Value
Have you ever continually given to another person only to realize that your intentions have been taken advantage of and now you’ve suddenly become that person’s doormat? Sounds familiar? Well this past week I was someone’s doormat and I had the opportunity to think about what was going on inside of me to have reflected this experience.
I am a firm believer that your outer reality is a direct reflection of your inner world. The interaction I had with this person was leaving me feeling frustrated and annoyed. The behavior I received from this person had me questioning how I really felt about myself to attract this into my life. When someone talks down to you or treats you in a way that doesn’t feel good usually you wonder why it’s happening. Why isn’t this person giving you what you want?
When I sat down to think about what I wasn’t receiving from this person, I also asked myself what was I NOT giving...
Have you ever had days where you feel like everything that could get you down, does? Roadblocks keep showing up, feelings of overwhelm takes over, and sometimes just staying in bed under the covers seem like the best option.
That pretty much summarizes my last week. Yes, I said it, even as a Law of Attraction Coach I do experience those moments. When moments like that show up it forces me to look at my situation and focus on what I want rather than the lack of what I am observing.
There was a time last week where I was absorbing everything around me not knowing exactly what to do or how to handle the issues that were popping up. It felt like time was standing still and I saw in slow motion all of these problems circling me, and holding me in my position unable to move. Fear and anxiety started creeping in along with their friends worry and overwhelm. I don’t like them by the way.
As humans we try and control everything. It’s in our nature to come...
“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” Dr. Wayne Dyer
Life often presents us with situations that make us question our actions, thoughts and sometimes even our beliefs. We over analyze things and try to make sense of what’s in front of us. As humans, we are conditioned to focus on what we observe and give all of our attention to it. We become stuck in a repetitive cycle that leaves us feeling hopeless.
As a Law of Attraction coach, I can’t speak enough on how important it is to understand that whatever you send out you get back. The Law of Attraction states “That which is like unto itself is drawn.” Or simply put, “Like attracts like.” This means that what you are focused on, you draw to you. Here’s how it works. When you are focused on what you want, you are attracting to you what you want. When you are focused on what you do not want, you are attracting to you what...
Have you ever found yourself wanting to change something in your life but repeating the same old habits? You’re not alone. Back in the days, I would get very clear in what I wanted to change but when it came down to it, I rarely ever did anything about it. It was as if I was paralyzed in my own step and the only thing I did know was how to repeat the same old destructive patterns that kept me stuck. In my mind I thought, well at least I had good intentions. Little did I know back then, that your intentions mean nothing unless you are willing to take the action steps after you get clear on what you want.
So what am I getting at today? More often than not I see people struggling with certain situations and circumstances in their life. Hell I’ve been through my share of ups and downs and still continue to go through them. The only difference now is when I feel something I don’t want to, I simply bring my AWARENESS back to what I WANT....
When we make the decision to change something unpleasant in our lives, the things that are no longer fulfilling our souls, the steps to change can be very uncomfortable. When we decide to end a toxic relationship, change jobs, recover from an addiction, or whatever else we are experiencing, we begin the process of growth. No one ever said personal development or transformation was easy. In fact it is the most difficult thing to go through when you are ready for change.
Anytime we start this journey, the excitement is there, and the anticipation for something better is very much attractive. The possibilities in life seem endless. Then it happens. It is as if it comes on suddenly and the wave of frustration and panic floods the body. Fear takes over the brain and paralyzes the mind.
All of the progress and hard work already accomplished seems like nothing now. It’s just easier to quit and go back to the way things were. The feelings of despair and...
“Sometimes surrender means giving up trying to understand, and becoming comfortable with not knowing” Eckhart Tolle
Life can throw us situations, challenges and obstacles that we feel we have no control over. We may feel overwhelmed, stuck and it looks as if there is no solution in sight. It seems as if our situation will last forever.
We feel the need to control how things will happen and is left disappointed when more resistance and frustration happens.
During times of challenges and struggles is when personal growth happens.
It is those times is when we learn the most about ourselves in order to get to our next level of awareness on this journey called LIFE.
As human beings, when things happen that we have no control over, it sends us into a vortex of emotions that makes us feel powerless. We fight against what is happening instead of going with the flow and accepting and surrendering to the situation at hand.
We block our growth from...