Heartbreak can be brutal and cruel. No one can understand that kind of pain unless you've been through it.
It can strip away self-confidence, fuck with your belief system, break your trust and make you feel like a failure no matter how hard you try to move forward.
And if you have kids with your ex, the pain runs so much deeper.
Sometimes it will feel like you'll never be able to crawl out of this mess you're living.
Sometimes it will feel like you’ve run out of options.
And sometimes you’ll beg for a break only to find out that if you stop surviving and doing, something else will go wrong.
You’ll feel like you can’t take any more punches and want to give up.
But I am here to remind you, that you will thrive as a result of your heartbreak.
And if you knew what was waiting for you on the other side, my friend, you'd never give up.
You have to decide today that you’re not going to stand for...
Your marriage has ended now what?
So many thoughts, emotions and memories flood your mind and body at the same time.
At times you don’t know if you’re in the middle of a bad dream or if this is really happening.
The ending of a marriage is debilitating and paralyzing.
When you decided to get married you thought about a future with that person, getting old, traveling together, raising kids together.
This is not what you pictured.
Now this is your reality.
While other families are planning vacations or traveling, or doing things as a family unit, you are trying to figure out what to do next with your life.
Which feels like you’re hanging on by a thread.
Uncertainty, fear and overwhelming thoughts surround you.
How are you ever going to get through this?
I’ve been where you are.
There are 5 major lessons I learned on my road to moving on and letting go and I’m going to...
Remember how you felt on your wedding day.
Full of joy and anticipation.
Mostly excited to party with friends and family after months and months of wedding planning.
Now you’re someone's wife and you get to call him your husband.
It's like a club and since you were a little girl, you've been waiting to get into.
And now that day is here.
It’s every girl's dream.
Do you remember looking at bridal magazines as a young girl and happily planning your big day as they call it, in your mind.
You knew the dress you wanted, the flowers and even what your ring looked like.
I know I did. Strapless Swarovski crystal lace dress with cali lilies and roses and a princess cut with side baguette platinum ring.
I loved spending time at my local library.
Back then we didn't have the simple pleasure known as the internet in our house so i spent many days in the library doing school work.