How to Find Your Value
Have you ever continually given to another person only to realize that your intentions have been taken advantage of and now you’ve suddenly become that person’s doormat? Sounds familiar? Well this past week I was someone’s doormat and I had the opportunity to think about what was going on inside of me to have reflected this experience.
I am a firm believer that your outer reality is a direct reflection of your inner world. The interaction I had with this person was leaving me feeling frustrated and annoyed. The behavior I received from this person had me questioning how I really felt about myself to attract this into my life. When someone talks down to you or treats you in a way that doesn’t feel good usually you wonder why it’s happening. Why isn’t this person giving you what you want?
When I sat down to think about what I wasn’t receiving from this person, I also asked myself what was I NOT giving...
We’ve all had moments in our life where we have fallen down, gotten knocked over and can’t really figure out how to get back up.
Sometimes it feels like we're going through an obstacle course where we keep hitting blocks and walls and we get further frustrated, let down and disappointed. Does that sound like something you’ve experienced? I know I have.
In all of the situations where I've experienced powerlessness, in that very second, I've had to remind myself that I am not powerless, that I do have control.
The one thing I can control is what I'm thinking. My thinking then controls how I am feeling and my feelings lead me to a path of action and reaction.
Last week my sweet little boy started kindergarten. It was a day full of emotions. Some of those emotions had me crying in the parking lot. I drove away sobbing, knowing I was leaving him in a big, brand new place. Not only was I crying because of that but mostly because I was...
This past week I embraced the beginning of a new chapter in my life. I signed my divorce papers ending an 8 year marriage. It was a bittersweet moment that left me feeling a wide range of emotions. As I looked back on my 8 year marriage I began to question everything I did. Although I did that in the past and made peace with my decisions, I found that in the aftermath of signing the paperwork, the same emotions crept back in.
After sifting through my memory of countless arguments and fights, I wondered what I could have done differently to handle the situation. How could I have avoided fights that led to the moments leading up to my divorce?
As I kept thinking about the bad moments I kept feeling negative emotions. Then I stopped myself.
I looked at where I was right now in my life and the vision I made for my new life and a strong sense of comfort and peace came over me. I was right where I needed to be.
The last 6 months of my life has been an intense...