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3 Magical Questions That Will Shift Your Thinking

As I look back on my past week, I realized that it was a week full of lessons thrown my way.  I was reminded once again to stand my ground, feel more love, less anger, and have unshakable faith in my belief system and vision. What a week, right?!

I am a big believer in creating your own path.  Aligning our thoughts and our feelings to create the future we want. Sometimes though, life still hands you experiences that need your attention in order to get to the next step.  This week proved that I still had some work to do in some areas of my life.

When you think of someone being bullied do you think of middle school, high school or even elementary school kids?  That’s what immediately pops into my mind when I hear the term bully. Merriam-Webster’s definition of a “bully” says “to treat someone in a cruel, insulting, threatening or aggressive fashion; to cause someone to do something by means of force or coercion”.  Now what pops into your mind? I bet after reading the definition you can identify a person in your life that has in some ways or another been a bully to you.

You can be bullied at any age and at any point in your life.  So what am I getting at here and why am I rambling on about bullies?  My encounter with one particular “bully” aka my ex-husband this week, made me take a step back and reevaluate my beliefs and why I was still allowing this person to have so much control over what I was thinking and how I was feeling.  There is going to be a lot of people you meet or that are already in your life that will get you to believe what they want you to. They want you to adopt their beliefs and their way of thinking and if you choose to allow them, they will make you at times feel inadequate and incompetent.  

When you come across a bully, you know by the way you feel.  You may feel intimidated or question what you already know. You may feel like your thoughts and feelings don’t matter and most of the time you may feel weak.  Weak in the fact that you just gave someone the driver’s seat to your life. What a crappy feeling right?

When I started feeling this way, I sat down, I reconnected back to what I know is true for me and most importantly I asked myself the three questions that always bring me out of a funk.

  1. What do I want?
  2. Why do I want it?
  3. How do I want to feel?

By answering these three questions, I was able to solidify my faith and trust in knowing that as long as I stay true to what I want I will be guided to what’s best for me.  By taking control of my thoughts and feelings I was able to lessen the power someone has over me and get back in the driver’s seat of my life. Bully’s always choose to project their insecurities onto you. They can’t control their own lives so they choose to take control of another’s.  

When you stay true to what you believe, possess unshakable faith and trust and keep your balance when times get tough, no one will have control over you.  No one will be able to use what they view as your weakness to fill a void in themselves. Bullies, however you encounter them, do not have the tools to control their own lives.  The only one in control of you is YOU and you are powerful beyond measure.

Have you experienced being bullied by someone?  If so, how did you get back in the driver's seat to your life?