Heartbreak can be brutal and cruel. No one can understand that kind of pain unless you've been through it.
It can strip away self-confidence, fuck with your belief system, break your trust and make you feel like a failure no matter how hard you try to move forward.
And if you have kids with your ex, the pain runs so much deeper.
Sometimes it will feel like you'll never be able to crawl out of this mess you're living.
Sometimes it will feel like you’ve run out of options.
And sometimes you’ll beg for a break only to find out that if you stop surviving and doing, something else will go wrong.
You’ll feel like you can’t take any more punches and want to give up.
But I am here to remind you, that you will thrive as a result of your heartbreak.
And if you knew what was waiting for you on the other side, my friend, you'd never give up.
You have to decide today that you’re not going to stand for any more bullshit and abuse from other people.
You have to decide today that you want that happy life, you want that relationship, you want that companionship, or whatever else you want.
If you say you want something but deep down inside you don’t believe you’re worthy of having it then that's what you’ll get.
Don’t settle because that’s all you’ll think you can have.
Don’t let your circumstances dictate your life.
You have more control than you think. And it starts with your breath.
It may not seem like it can change your life but once you make it a habit, a routine you’ll see changes in your life that make you a believer.
The connection to my breath changed my life. And I may sound like a broken record but I can’t say it enough.
And those that know, know.
Taking the time to pause and breathe slowly will let your nervous system know it’s safe to proceed. It’s safe to take that next step.
You can think all the positive thoughts in the world, but you won't see the changes you want unless you take action and get out of your comfort zone.
It’s not always easy to take that pause, but the good news is you can practice it until it becomes a habit like showering and brushing your teeth.
And while you’re practicing this new way of being you're going to see changes in your life that move you closer to what you want.
I never thought I would be divorced with two small children and have to start over.
And that hasn't been easy at all, but the one thing I never gave up on was love and having a family that radiated that.
My life is far from perfect, but every day I wake up next to a man that adores me and our three children. Two aren’t even his blood but he considers them his own.
He annoys the hell out of me sometimes but I know he is my safe container when I need him the most and I am his.
I didn’t have that with my ex. My sense of safety and security was distorted from the trauma I went through with my dad.
For a long time, I believed my relationships needed to be dysfunctional.
Boy was I wrong.
My partner has allowed me to face the things I needed along my journey in a safe way.
He’s the icing on my cake.
We've committed to learning and growing along the way and we put our trust in something greater.
We’re creating a life that we want and love, living by our own rules.
Don’t give up on what you want. I believe in you.
Breathe in through your nose and out through your nose.
Let the feeling of having what you want, fill your body with your breaths.
You’ve got this!
You are worth it and so are your dreams!